As some may have noticed, I have not posted lately.  The inspiration didn’t come.  If the message doesn’t come, I have nothing to pass on.  That changed today and I heard it loud and clear.


I have been struggling lately with how to deal with a certain situation and individual.  The hate and judgment coming at me is palpable.  It makes me defensive, angry and wanting to defend myself.


We have all been there.  The specifics are of no consequence.  It doesn’t matter why the hatred is coming, justified or not.  It is there and the first reaction we have all been taught is to defend yourself.  Strike back, put them in their place, force a change in the emotions coming your way.  If that doesn’t work, then simply wall them off.  Ignore it and in time it will go away.


Problem is, forcing a change only treats the symptom.  You may very well force the emotions to change, you may even get an apology, but that has done nothing to address the root cause of the situation.  Same thing with walling it off, it will certainly provide a sense of relief, maybe even a sense of victory, but it will not last.  It does not address the root cause.


How do I know this?  Because I have been there, done that.  Over and over and over.  You can dissipate the hatred in the short term, but it will return.  May be a different issue that triggers it, but the hatred is the same.  It all reminds me of the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over, but expecting a different result.


Yeah, yeah, yeah, Dude.  I have heard it all before.  Love them into submission.  Turn the other cheek.  All that does is get you run over, you have the right and the obligation to defend yourself!


Yes, I get it, but hear me out.  Defending yourself in the traditional sense only perpetrates the hate.  Why is that?


We are all connected, we all come from the same Source and return to that same Source.  Attempting to defend yourself in the traditional sense only works in a black or white, right or wrong, good or bad reality that does not exist.  This simplistic view of our existence has failed throughout history.  Once you acknowledge duality doesn’t exist, you acknowledge the futility of fighting fire with fire.


We are all part of the same whole.  Even science now accepts that premise as reality.  We exist in a sea of energy and the change in energy in one spot cannot help but influence and change the energy in another spot.  We are One, engaged in a dance with ourselves inside an illusion of our own making for the purpose of experiencing duality.  You may want to read that sentence again.  If you want to stop the experience of hate, anger, frustration, you must step outside the dance of duality.  Even if just for a moment, experience a glimpse of your True Self in all its magnificence.  Step outside the dance.


Put another way, the negative emotions we all wish to escape are nothing more than a mirror of our own emotions.  We are fighting our own hatred!  Don’t believe me?  Try this simple meditation.


Sit.  Quiet your mind by repeating the following until you are at peace:


I am the Truth

I am the Love

I am the Light

I Am


Now picture the perceived source of the negative emotion.  Look at the individual or situation from a position of safety. Thank them for their presence in your life and thank them for the emotions that you feel. Thank them for the lesson they have given you.  Now wrap them in all that you are, the Love Light and Truth that is your being.  Wrap them in that pure energy of Source and release them.  Release the emotions, state that they are no longer needed and release the emotions in Love and Light.  Watch as the situation softens, brightens and releases.  You are releasing your own darkness.


Know that all emotions, positive and negative, flow from you.  If you want Love, radiate Love.  If you want Light, radiate Light.  Hatred, anger, darkness all dissipate in the Light.  Only Love will remain in the Light.


When you are tired of the emotional drama, when you are tired of beating yourself up, step outside the dance and revel in the Oneness that defines us all.


Now we are doing yoga…



Blair is the co-owner of Yoga Daily in Mt. Pleasant, SC. []   He is a certified yoga instructor, recovering lawyer and a spiritual student.  The content of this blog is what Blair considers to be universal truths that span all dogma and religion and it is offered to you in Love and Light.  Check out Yoga Dude  [] for additional blog entries.  You can contact Blair at  Yoga is but one path to the knowing that we are all One.  Please take what resonates with you and leave the rest without judgment or offense.